Such a bad blogger!

    OMG, my last blog was in 2023?? What is wrong with me, LOL...why can't I keep up with this blog? There must be some deep-seeded reason why I avoid coming here, so what do you say we dig into it right now?! :)

Let's start at the beginning! I was born in April 1948, in Missouri! So yes, I'm a natural hillbilly and have lived 77 years on this earth!

I'm not going to make this a long introduction since we're here to figure out "what is wrong with me"! I will give you the first clue by saying most of my years (at least 50) were lived in chaos, to put it mildly.

The saying "kids learn what they live" is very true. I ended up reliving a LOT, but not all of the chaos that my mother created for my sister and me. For instance, she was married 5 times, but to only 3 men....married two of them twice. She divorced my father when I was 3 and I didn't see or hear from him until I was 18. Then connected with him again when I was 50....not much of the "father/daughter" thing I've always heard so much about. By the way, I only married and divorced twice. I decided to remain single since 1982.

Another good example of the chaos of my life...I never attended the same school for a full year until 10th grade because we moved so often, sometimes 3 schools in one year. I will say this...I certainly learned to make friends fast and could get along with anyone! I always looked at it as a benefit, although I didn't realize how the instability was causing internal trauma.

Fortunately I realized that I needed to make sense of why I was so unsettled, depressed and uncomfortable with my adult life even though I was outgoing, friendly and always cheerful to the outside world. I sought therapy on and off, read a lot of psychology books and finally hit one that gave me the answer:  

Addicted to Misery: The Other Side of Co-Dependency Paperback – January 1, 1989

by Robert A. Becker (Author)

Discusses the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family, explains why codependents come to fear happiness, and offers advice on developing a more positive attitude towards life

So, this is how I figured out why I am like am...at least the beginning of figuring it out. And it really is the simplified version for the purpose of this blog!! I always have a difficult time going into details because I want to look forward, not relive my life. That's the same reason I don't write a book like many people (even my son) have suggested. If you're that interested, you can read the blog back from 2006. I also found out recently that my biggest problem--procrastination--is caused by the depression I've learned to live with. And now we're back to the original ??.

    

I keep busy taking care of my houseplants and doing my watercolor painting! I try to keep up with world news and with politics, go to lunch with friends, visit with the grandkids and generally lead a quiet, comfortable life. I'll add some photos to end this and hopefully will blog again before the year ends!! 

Here's where I am now at 77...still single, living in a small senior apt., in a small town in Michigan near most of my kids and grandkids....my oldest son and his family (3 kids) live in TX. I spent 7 years living there with them before moving back to MI. I'm pretty sure I blogged during those years.

Me in my apartment which is my "studio"! :) This was St. Patrick's Day this year....

With my daughter and her family at granddaughter's b'day dinner this month.

 

My "studio"...

One of my latest pet portraits.

 

First Live concert since 1977...

I guess you'd say I'm not that into crowds! LOL! Fortunately, I have a good friend going with me and she used to work at the venue so I feel more confident! Plus it's outdoors so won't feel cooped up....it's really strange that this even came into my mind. I guess I will explore this further...

First, I guess I should tell you who I'm going to see...The Steve Miller Band. I had to look up their songs AFTER I bought the tickets! Luckily I found several songs that I've always liked!!

I've never once thought about feeling anxious about going somewhere, but I have to admit that I am. I think maybe it's a residual effect of the pandemic, at least partly so. The whole world was affected in one way or another and many of us became introverts and hermits from 2+ yrs of lockdowns and restrictions and changes to whatever was "normal" to each of us. So, with that and my age, I've become more introspective as well.

I'm glad I went to the concert though, if just to shut people up that I need to "get out and do things"! I don't think they realize how much I enjoy staying home, painting, growing my houseplants, watching tv and just doing nothing if I feel like it! :) 

Maybe I will go to another one someday, but it would have to be someone like James Taylor to get me out there again! I don't really like dealing with crowds and traffic! :) 

Forgot to mention my other hobby...watching trials on Law & Crime Network....fascinating! I remember watching the OJ trial way back when (Sep 26, 1994 – Oct 3, 1995), and then the most recent major trial of Derek Chauvin in 2021. There are some big ones coming up for the former president, but no telling when.

I am still hoping to get subscribers to chime in (or just READ) on my blog, but I am still holding back as far as promoting it and inviting people. Still hard to be totally transparent. 

 

Just Me, Myself and I...

 That's who reads this blog...or if anyone reads it, they don't leave comments. :( It's my own fault of course, since I am so irregular with my posts, but after this many years I will just keep on posting when the spirit hits me! I have invited members of my pages to come here, but I'm still cautious...don't know why I don't want certain people to read it.

So! Here we are in July and my last post was March!! I actually have to go back to my photos on the computer to remember what I was doing in the months since then! I keep all my photos in folders named by year and month...then I make folders for individual people or topics. I can get lost for hours once I start looking through my photos!

Here's something that made me smile just now when I realized I hadn't changed my wall calendar to July. Last Christmas I made calendars of some of my best photos to give as gifts and of course kept one for myself. I didn't realize that July's image was my ALL TIME favorite, as you can see here. :) I took that in 2012 on a nature trail that I walked every day and have a framed copy on my desk.

I really miss being able to walk on that trail, but I'm so fortunate that 11 yrs later I have a lovely place to walk just out the back door of my apartment building. I am not able to walk every day (depends on my arthritis), but when I do I am still able to enjoy nature. There's a creek, trees, ducks and geese (babies too) and a wooden bridge to cross over. This is where I get beautiful photos like this: 

It's also nice because I meet other nice people who are walking their dogs or their babies. 

Actually, it is the anticipation of what kind of photos I might get that keeps me heading out for a walk, which is so important at my age! Great motivation!

I've got two new paintings to do and just finished this one of a pet that has crossed over the bridge and have been commissioned to do another dog and a people portrait! I'm very comfortable now doing pets, but still quite anxious about humans!

So I will try once again to entice some viewers to my blog and hope to see some comments this month! :)

Dogs, Cats and a few humans...

 That's what I've been painting. Mostly dogs it seems....I've done a few florals and a great pair of workboots! That was a nice change and I'm very pleased with the result!

I can't even tell you how much I'm enjoying painting and I LOVE watercolors! I still can't even believe that I'm able to turn out work that I like as much as everyone else does, since I'm so hard on myself!

Anyway, I'm learning to have confidence in myself as well as not be so much of a perfectionist. Watercolor is mostly WATER and can't totally be controlled. That is the mystery, the challenge and the joy of this kind of painting! At least for me!

Now that I'm remembering to come here to post more often, I also feel better about this blog. :) I still haven't been inviting people over here because I feel like it's "all over the place" as far as having a direction and therefore something to help people WANT to come here to read what I have to say. I don't really like baring my soul online, but I sit and read other people when they pour out their deepest problems. I'm more likely to think about how well they write or spell. Guess I shouldn't so critical, but it's very distracting when you have to "correct" their use of certain words in your mind while you're trying to determine if you have anything to offer this person. Most of the time I just use an emoticon as my "opinion" and ever that is rare if the person has a lot of response already. I do hate to see someone make a nice post and then no one responds.

Same thing with this blog! I need to decide if I'm going to open it up or just use it as my own private "boo hoo" session or to brag on myself! :) 

Anyway, I'm working on a family's 3 dogs at this point, plus trying to "re-do" the only painting that has come back for changes...from now on I will ALWAYS send a digital copy first before mailing the actual painting! :) I also have two darling cats to do as a trade for a birthday gift I'm putting together for my granddaughter! I will post all of that when finished with everything!

Here's my last commission and a very happy client! If you read this, let me know!

 

Thank goodness for Watercolor!!

Years (like MANY years) ago I would get lost for hours writing in my journal. I kept a daily journal for 22 yrs...

For the past 20 yrs. it was drawing my cartoon (MinniePauz) and working on the website. 

From 2013 to 2020 I wasn't able to find my joy, except for being able to enjoy and make memories with my grandkids in Texas.

 

In January 2020, joy came back to me after getting settled back in Michigan and my own apartment!  

  

First it was being able to collect houseplants that gave me so much joy! I went from one (from my Daughter) to this: 

  

Then in April of 1921, on my birthday, again my daughter added to my sense of joy by gifting me the watercolor supplies I had been wanting! Ever since then I have been absorbed in learning to paint with watercolors!

So, that brings me up to this moment and I really hope anyone reading this has also found a source of joy! I feel this is going to last me a long time because there is so much to learn and so many paintings I want to do! To end this "session", I will share a few of my paintings that also brought joy to others!! ♥

Leave a comment and share the source of your JOY! Until next time....Dee

February 2023 Musings

*Started this on February 1...adding to it on Febrary 10...still trying to finish it*

Hard to believe I'm actually posting so soon after my last post!! LOL!! Happy February! Today is my sister's birthday, so I thought I would write about her and our relationship...maybe I can figure out what that is.

I was born 4/27/48 and she was born 2/1/50 so almost 2 yrs. apart, but in our adult years I would tease her for a few months that she was "catching up to me". Then at the end of April, I'm nearly 2 yrs older again. :) So, this leads me to the topic of this post today. We have spent 73 years as sisters...never being apart until I was a Senior in high school when I went to live with my Aunt in Missouri and she stayed with Mom & Stepdad in VA.

I'm not sure if I can condense what I want to say into a reasonable post here, but the last few years have been like not having a sister at all. After many times of asking what was wrong, what happened...I narrowed it down to politics. That was a shock to me because although we did lean different ways, we never argued or even discussed our differences. 

<Here we were in our younger days.

In October of 2019 I moved back to Michigan after 7 yrs with my kids in Tx. Each year while in TX, I would drive 10 hrs to my sister's place in IL and after a day or two, we would make the trip to our parents' home in TN. Then back to IL and I would head back to TX. I made one trip when she was having surgery after cancer, 2015 I think.

When I moved back to Mi....I didn't feel comfortable on those long drives again. She was going to visit me in 2020, but would have to bring her dog and the apartments I'm in wouldn't allow doggie guests. Everything between us seemed pretty normal with phone calls and video calls until sometime in 2021 I noticed that she never called or made any comments or posts to me on FB like we had always done. Finally, to cut this short, she said it was because of our differences on political issues. I guess it was because I voted for Biden in 2020...remember, I voted for Trump in 2016. 

It's been really hard for the past 2 yrs not having a sister to share things with or feel like someone has my back...especially someone close to me for 73 years! It has helped that I've been able to "let it go" and not fret over it. Then yesterday I'll be damned if she didn't call me to say I should start a YouTube channel! Out of the blue! LOL! She'll probably never know that it made me happy that she called me, but I will keep my fingers crossed that it's the beginning of a renewal of our sisterhood. Most likely it will never be the same because of the break from our "norm", but hopefully something comfortable that will carry us through now.

So, I finally got these thoughts written down and preserved. I'm going to try to not fret over our "distant" relationship and maybe we will someday feel close again.

New Year, New "Career"...

Happy New Year, my Friends....if anyone still reads here! :) That is my grandson who made it on the big screen at a Detroit Red Wings game/match. Evidently a goal of his!

So what is her new "career" you ask? Well, my hobby I wrote about last year, watercolor painting, has become more than just a hobby. I'm still retired of course, but have found a little side hustle by painting peoples' pets! When I got my first paints and brushes from my daughter as a birthday present in 2021, I had no idea I would become good enough to actually get PAID to do it!

I started by just doing gifts like my granddaughter's cats and then I did (as a gift) for a friend who's dog had to be put down.

 

After a few more of these, I started getting requests to do other people's pets and by Christmas of 2022, I had orders lined up for people to give as gifts! No one is more surprised than I am of this hidden talent! I knew I had some creative abilities, but I didn't know I would be good at watercolor!

So it's not really a "career", just a more extensive hobby! I'm learning more each day as I watch youtube videos and practice painting flowers and landscapes. I love doing it and cannot walk by my "studio" (my table) without touching up something I'm working on or even something new!

It's great to find something at my age (almost 75) that gives me something to look forward to each day especially since all of the grandkids are grown and doing their "thing", or even the younger two are so busy with their activities!

That reminds me...I've even made a few attempts at doing portraits of kids! I will end my first blog of 2023 with a collage of my people portraits! Until next time... Dee